Two Weeks as a Parent: Some Stuff I Learned

20 Sep
  • For the anxious mom, formula feeding is awesome. It’s amazing how much peace of mind you have when you know exactly how much your baby has eaten.
  • There is no such thing as ‘casual pumping’ either you pump like a madwoman, or you don’t. A few days in and my supply has pretty much dwindled. Lucky I’m loving the formula. No guilt left, and the major upside: I finally get my blessed back. Sweet relief.
  • Another upside of quitting breastfeeding: We have introduced the pacifier. Or as I like to call it: The magic crying cork.
  • You become obsessed with bodily functions. Bunny had a bout of gas and was having trouble pooping. When she finally did go, there was audible cheering in the Shmerson household.
  • It’s hard, but not that hard. I find myself with endless wells of patience for her. Things may be challenging sometimes, but at the end of the day, it’s for her, so it makes it ok.
  • Nothing grosses you out any more. I’ve been pooped on, peed on, and spat up on. It’s all good.
  • “Lots of sleep” is a relative term. These days a three hour stretch leaves me downright refreshed.
  • It doesn’t really sink in. Sometimes I look away for a few moments when Shmerson is with her, and forget that I have a baby. I look back and it hits me for a moment, then becomes incomprehensible once again. People say her name, and it takes a while to hit. Right. They’re talking about my daughter. Then my head explodes, and I go back into a quiet state of non-comprehension once again.
  • You will never care for anyone more. When I think she’s in pain, I hurt like I never would for myself.  I was told this would happen, I just didn’t grasp how deep the feeling truly is.
  • The cliches are true. Like – all of them. There were a few I never used to buy. “I’m excited to see them grow up and discover the world”.  That one always sounded weird to me. Or “cherish every moment”. But it’s so true. Every day she is becoming more of a little person, and it’s thrilling. I’m cherishing every moment, and at the same time I know this baby girl is going to grow up to be a total rock star, and I can’t wait to see that happen. It’s really rather amazing.
  • The joy is pure and unbridled. About once a day, sometimes twice, it dawns on me. She is here. She is mine. I could be singing her a song, or watching Shmerson hold her or play her some music. Or seeing her grandma melt when she has her in her arms. And it hits me. And I cry and cry and cry. Tears of pure joy like I have never felt before in my life. This is what love is.



23 Responses to “Two Weeks as a Parent: Some Stuff I Learned”

  1. Theresa September 20, 2013 at 23:31 #

    Love this. And we jokingly call the pacifier the shut the f upifier 🙂

  2. Courtney September 21, 2013 at 00:01 #

    Yes, yes, yes! This is true love! We don’t ever say it in our house, but it’s way obvious: the babies are the most loved people here. I love my husband, and he loves me, but not with the same intensity that we love our kids.

    I’m so happy that you know this love, Mo! You deserve to know it (as does every other person desiring it!)!!!

  3. slese1014 September 21, 2013 at 00:18 #

    Oh that true love….so happy to hear you’ve found peace. And your daughter is gorgeous!!!! I couldn’t be happier for you!

  4. Esperanza September 21, 2013 at 00:21 #


  5. Daryl September 21, 2013 at 00:29 #

    I looooved reading this post! I’m so happy for you, Mo, and Bunny is just beautiful!

  6. Christina Williams September 21, 2013 at 01:02 #

    I 100% love this! It’s so true. This is one thing that people weren’t overhyping in those cliches.

  7. Angel September 21, 2013 at 01:27 #

    Yep. I’m a cliche wielding, baby picture posting wreck. And it’s wonderful.

  8. Karin September 21, 2013 at 02:43 #

    She is gorgeous mo, absolutely gorgeous!

  9. firstcomes September 21, 2013 at 11:09 #

    Oh my! She is adorable! !!!!
    So glad you’re enjoying motherhood and that you’re happy and confident now that you’ve switched to formula!

  10. findmynewnormal September 21, 2013 at 11:25 #

    She’s beautiful. Congrats!

  11. Heather September 21, 2013 at 14:03 #

    She is beautiful! I am so so happy for you.

  12. Keisha September 21, 2013 at 14:21 #

    I’m so happy for you. It really is amazing, isn’t it?

  13. Wannabemom September 21, 2013 at 15:48 #

    This is the best post ever. And the Bunny is so adorable!!!

  14. SRB September 21, 2013 at 17:29 #

    All the cliches we think we’ll *never* say and then…YEP. They are so, so, so, so, so true. Also, I may have scrolled all the way through before reading, hoping to see her wee little face! HELLO LOVELY!!!!!

  15. l September 21, 2013 at 23:54 #

    Such joy for all of us in knowing and hearing your happiness and love!

  16. expectantmummy September 21, 2013 at 23:55 #

    So glad you have made the switch to formula and arent feeling guilty, you really shouldnt feel any guilt at all! Doing the best for you and your lovely little girl is all that matters. She is beautiful! xxxxx

  17. katerina September 22, 2013 at 06:32 #

    She is absolutely bloody adorable. I’m sure those cheeks get their fair share of kisses.

    Something dawned on me after my son was born. You will never love anyone as much as you love your children, which means you will never love your parents as much as they love you. That really struck me. Your parents (assuming they’re NORMAL) love you more than anyone in the world. I almost feel guilty about that!

  18. Amanda P. September 23, 2013 at 02:13 #

    This post makes me so happy. My cliche I never realized was true and now say and think all the time is “it goes by so fast.” Your daughter is a beauty.

  19. psychsarah September 23, 2013 at 15:48 #

    Bunny is so freaking sweet and lovely (like I have to tell you this!) Glad motherhood is treating you well so far. 🙂 It’s joyful to experience your joy through this post!

  20. kerry September 23, 2013 at 18:55 #

    You sound like you are doing fantastic! Congratulations! Again, she is so so so beautiful. So happy for the three of you!

  21. Kristin September 23, 2013 at 22:20 #

    This post makes me incredibly happy!

  22. Alissa S September 24, 2013 at 07:25 #

    She is so so cute! I am really happy to see this post and I can FEEL your happiness. You have waited for this and now it’s yours. I know that unadulterated joy very well and it’s divine. The pacifier has helped so much, especially since C started teething. I hold no shame about letting him have something that soothes him. And formula feeding is wonderful. Pumping was a good thing too, but boy did my life get better when I got the extra sleep. I can’t wait to hear more about your little miss.

  23. newmom September 24, 2013 at 19:19 #

    Enjoy it Mama 🙂 Bunny is adorable!

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