Ray of Light

6 Mar

Something really weird happened today. But like – weird in a really good way.

Ok – so here’s how it started. As I’ve said many times before – we have a pre-TTC checklist – which will officially be done on Monday.

Also – Shmerson and I have decided to not actively TTC, but rather lose the condom as soon as I quit smoking, provided that I stop taking temps and avoid POAS. So yes – free of pressure.

Now that I’ve got that covered I’ll go into today’s events. Shmerson’s best friend and his new wife came to visit today, and it was the first time we’d really had a chance to talk as “married couples”. The new wife didn’t really know about our history, so we spent the better part of half an hour going through our whole spiel.

It was weird – because both of us were talking about it really positively. It was nice. And the newlyweds were appreciating that we were sharing our story without scaring them. (always good).

Then a friend called who I hadn’t talked to in a couple of weeks. I updated him about everything that’s been going on. The teaching, the movie proposal I turned in. How work’s been great. It was amazing. No drama. Everything’s good. a bit nervous about quitting smoking on monday – that’s it.

Then I cooked some shrimp fajitas (using leftover fixins from the oscar party – it was yummy!), and decided to zone out for a bit.

I don’t know why – but for the first time in about a month I went back to 16 and pregnant. Now I know what you regular readers are saying to yourselves right now: Mo! Why do you keep doing that to yourself!?! You’re driving yourself nuts! What’s the point?

Well, dear grasshoppers (or whatever), two minutes into the episode I had a lightbulb moment.

I was watching this girl – and I wasn’t mad at her. I wasn’t jealous of her.

I was excited. FOR ME.

I stopped the show and immediately bombarded Shmerson.

I’m quitting smoking on monday! You know what this means? This means we’re going to try for a baby again!

Shmerson made a face.

I promise! I won’t pee on sticks or anything! But isn’t this exciting? We get to try again! We got our entire checklist done! Can you believe it? It only took us 5 months to do the checklist!

I felt a huge sense of joy, accomplishment and hope – all combined into that one little sentence. We got our entire checklist done. We’re ready.

I’m ready.

I’m ready to face trying again. With all of the fear and heartache it may entail (and now – control-freakery free!).

I can’t say I’ve completely healed. All I can say is that I feel like I came full circle this week. It’s time to move forward. To look forward.

And it’s the first true, clear ray of light I’ve seen in a very long time.

10 Responses to “Ray of Light”

  1. me0me March 6, 2011 at 06:09 #

    🙂 I’m happy for you too

  2. Amber March 6, 2011 at 06:31 #


  3. Marie March 6, 2011 at 07:04 #

    What language do you & Shmerson speak at home? Like, do you bombard him with these things in English? Does he reply by making faces in Hebrew?

    Congratulations 🙂

    • mommyodyssey March 6, 2011 at 12:54 #

      LOL – I bombard him in Englishing. Though sometimes he does indeed make faces in hebrew. 🙂

      • slcurwin March 8, 2011 at 23:24 #

        I need to see this “making faces in hebrew”. I’m happy for you my dear.

  4. Kristin March 6, 2011 at 08:19 #

    Woohooo…I am so happy for you.

  5. Elphaba March 6, 2011 at 15:52 #

    Yay, this made me smile 🙂

  6. Cattiz J March 6, 2011 at 21:12 #

    Wow, congrats on start trying for a baby again. How exciting!

  7. Low Fat Lady March 6, 2011 at 23:42 #

    So glad your feeling positive and ready! That is so awesome, good luck!

  8. bodegabliss March 7, 2011 at 21:09 #

    This post just made me really happy. 🙂

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