It’s been a sad few days on the blogosphere

24 Jan

I’ve been stopping and starting posts for the last 24 hours. 5 different posts on 5 different topics. But I can’t bring myself to post today about my career inklings, my funny little interior monologues, or anything except the terrible pain I feel for people who I’ve found through ICLW who have experienced some horrific losses and are now screaming out through their writing.

This is the double edged sword of this community that we have. For every time we spill out our own guts, we read about others. For every joyous announcement, there is a scream of pain beyond measure. Of agony and heartbreak.

But this is what we’re here for. I have found the strength, understanding, love and support here that I thought were impossible, and only because I thought I was alone in my experience.

This is what we’re here for, to strengthen and be strengthened. To cry together and to be joyous together.

Several of my blogging sisters are now in their TWW – I know that I will cry tears of joy for them if they get that BFP at the end of the rainbow. There will not be one iota of jealousy, there will only be abundant joy.

Others are in terrible pain, and I know that I will do all I can to make them feel that they are not alone in this world.

We are all on the same rocky boat.

I plan on making it ICLW every week.

Much love to everyone.


4 Responses to “It’s been a sad few days on the blogosphere”

  1. bodegabliss January 24, 2011 at 19:26 #

    First of all, I feel like we were separated at birth. Just wanted to put that out there.

    Secondly, I couldn’t agree more about ICLW. I feel so blessed to be a part of all of this and to have found this support group. I also feel, in a way, it’s a bit overwhelming. My anxiety may have tripled as a result of reading all of these blogs and I’m not sure if I was ready mentally….but it’s worth it to reach out to others so they don’t feel so alone. I wish I had had this when I miscarried the first couple of times. I felt SO alone. And we’re not. What an amazing thing.

    I’m really loving your blog! Signed up for it through Google Reader…just wanted to mention that in case it doesn’t show up in your subscriptions. 🙂

    • mommyodyssey January 24, 2011 at 19:47 #

      Thanks BB – the feeling is completely mutual! 🙂
      Yesterday after spending a bit too much time on faces of loss, faces of hope , I actually broke down and cried to my hubby for half an hour about how much I feel these women’s pain, and how scared I am for our own fate.
      He, being the wise poet-in-training that he is, reminded me that each one of us has their own story, and their own outcome, and we just have to be patient until we have ours, and deal with it as it comes.
      I think that’s the best way to look at it (as hard as that is for my control-freaky, anxiety-ridden self). I concentrate on the happy, and do my best to console the sad. At the end of the day, that’s what I hope everyone will do for me, and that is why I am so grateful to no longer be alone.

      • Hemlock January 26, 2011 at 01:59 #

        Your husband is a wise man 🙂

  2. Miriam January 24, 2011 at 22:34 #

    It is hard sometimes but I find the IF community to be one of the most generous and loving communities around. Its shocking sometimes that in the midst of my own heartbreak I’ve found a great group of women.

    ICLW #192

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